Some riders love motorcycles because it gives them a short escape from their partner, but riding as couples could have more advantages, including better sex!
Motorbike Writer psychologist Sharon Ledger says sharing your motorcycling passion could lead to more passion in the bedroom.
“By all means, go for a ride with your mates, but also go for rides that include your partner as it will increase your intimacy,” she says.
Sharon and her husband, Brien, not only share a passion for riding, but also Indian motorcycles. Sharon rides a Scout Sixty and Brien a Chief Vintage.
“It is important to have some balance in your riding life,” she says. “If you only ever went riding with others, it could cause resentment in your partner.
“Sometimes it’s good just for one of us to go and bond with our friends. Guys need ‘bloke time’ to talk about bloke stuff and women need ‘girl time’.
“You need time together and time apart to keep things interesting.”
Whether you each ride, or one of you is the dedicated pillion-in-a-million like Mrs MBW, there are many healthy attributes of couples riding.
10 REASONS RIDING COUPLES LAST LONGER
1 BEING POSITIVE
It’s difficult for riders to be negative when they are riding. And studies have shown that couples who have a positive attitude have a healthier marriage.
2 TIME TOGETHER
Couples may live in the same house, but their time together can be limited by TV, social media, household duties and other distractions. When you ride together, you are sharing focused, quality time. University studies have shown that couples who share their hobby have a happier marriage.
3 SHARED FRIENDS
If you ride with a group of friends or in a club, you are sharing your social circle which can be healthy for a relationship. However, be warned that some studies have also shown this can lead to unhealthy results such as jealousy. So, don’t always ride with your club. Enjoy some time riding just as a couple.
4 ECONOMIC BENEFITS
If you have different hobbies, it can be expensive. But if you share the same hobby, you can share costs. Although, if you both have a bike, it can also double costs!
5 COMMON GOALS
Following on from the above, your priorities become identical, so there is less chance of fighting. If you are both striving to get the housework done so you can go riding, you’ll no doubt work together. There is also the benefit of having a common goal toward saving for a bike, gear or a riding holiday, which is a healthy bonding experience.
6 PRESENTS AND GIFTS
You will never again be at a loss for a gift to buy your partner for their birthday, Fathers/Mothers Day, Christmas and/or Valentines Day. Just hit your local motorcycle store and get some bike accessories or gear for your partner. Or book a combined riding holiday.
7 SHARED MEMORIES
Growing old together is about sharing memories of family, friends and events. If you share your major pastime, you will have so much more to share.
The home is not a conducive environment to communicate because of the tensions that may live there. Getting out on the bike and talking at your favourite cafe stop puts you in a more conducive environment for good communication. Also, modern Bluetooth intercoms allow you to continue to chat while riding, pointing out things you see as you go and discussing issues without arguing. It’s hard to argue when you’re having such a good time riding.
9 TALKING TOPICS
Have you ever seen the couple sitting in a restaurant, not saying anything? Sharing a hobby and a ride give you so much more to talk about.
10 BETTER SEX
We saved the best for last. Sharon says being a pillion develops intimacy by constant touching. But even riding on separate bikes is good because it is a mental and emotional build-up to a physical bonding at the end of the ride. “Men just have to think about sex and can have it, but women need time to build up. Riding together can be part of that build-up to a more physical intimacy. Even talking and sharing the emotional experience of a ride can put women more in the mood for sex.”